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Picking Up Speed

May09
2008
Rob Written by Rob

Well, we’re down to the last two months now. It’s all coming together.

The big news recently is that yesterday, Kristi and I went down to the Modesto courthouse and got our marriage license. That was a story in itself.. we got there just before they closed, filled out all the paperwork, swore an oath (right hands raised and everything) that we weren’t already married to anyone else, then I whipped out my debit card only to be met with a defeated expression from the clerk. “We only take cash or check.”

Oh, you have got to be kidding. This is 2008. What government office today doesn’t take electronic payment?

Well, apparently the Modesto one. And since the paperwork had already been filled out and put into the computer, and neither of us had our checkbooks, we all collectively had a problem: we either had to get the fee to them in the 10 minutes before the office closed, or else I would have to come down to the office right when they opened this morning at 8 with payment. Or else the clerk would be unhappy or something; we didn’t get too many details about what tragic misfortune would fall upon us all if an unpaid marriage license ended up stranded in the computer. But since we didn’t want to risk facing that potential cataclysm, and since I sure didn’t want to hike downtown early this morning, we made a mad dash to the bank. Two blocks away, around the corner and down the street.

You wouldn’t think that two blocks could be so frustrating, but this was at 4pm. Both red lights. Slow traffic. Tick tock, tick tock: minutes passing on the car dashboard. Finally we pull into the bank and get cut off at the drive-thru ATM by a woman in a white Suburban who takes her !@&#!@&! sweet time working out her deposit and getting out of the car and figuring out how the ATM machine worked and then making her deposit and then getting back into her car and then taking her sweet time figuring out how her car worked. She slowly pulls out, we zip in, grab the money and go.

We’re barrelling down the street towards the courthouse. “Okay,” I say, “Just drop me at the corner and I’ll dash.”

“I hope they’re not locking up.” Clock reads 3:59.

And I’m thinking, I swear to God if there’s some mid-level government clerk locking that freakin’ door when I get up there, I’m going to keep banging on that glass and making an ass of myself until they either call the cops or someone recognizes me and lets me pay for this marriage license. For the sake of a couple minutes, there is just no way I’m coming back in the morning for this.

So she pulls up, I jump from the car and dash up the steps and throw the door open, cash in hand and trying to hunt down the clerk who helped us before. I find her and have the final paperwork going as Kristi comes in. We get the official California-endorsed papers in a nice, clean little manila envelope and formally have the blessing of the state to get hitched sometime in the next 90 days.

In other news..

We’ve been getting regular RSVPs, a handful every day, from the invitations that went out last week. And nearly everyone has accepted! If this keeps up, we’re going to have a full house. We’ve been getting consistent compliments on the invitations, people continue to buy us gifts off our registries, and we’re both just very grateful to being surrounded by such wonderful family and friends. We’re very happy with how things are shaping up for July.

Dress and rings are bought and paid for. Venue is sorted out. The pastor’s engaged. Engagement photos done and prints ordered. Beautiful invitations out and RSVPs coming back. And now we have our license. We still need to do a million small tasks between now and the event, but I really feel like we have the most important things done now. We’re ready to get this show going.

Posted in Wedding

Lazy Weekend

May04
2008
Kristi Written by Kristi

We were lazy this weekend and it was  SO. NICE.  We cleaned up the living room a bit, ran a few errands.  Tonight, Rob was able to network the PS3 to our house server and I think SkyNet will become self-aware by the end of the evening.  We can now play every MP3 file over our TV and watch videos too.  It’s great!  Now I can torture him with Justin Timberlake in the house AND the car.  Mwahahahaha!

My wedding dress arrived on Saturday and it will need to be altered.  But at least it’s here!  The arrival date kept getting pushed back so I was worried it would get pushed back again and I’d have a dress arriving the day of the wedding.   But not so!  Yay!  Rob has seen the fabric but that’s it.  We took it over to my mom’s to hang in my room there so it doesn’t get dirty or accidentally peeked at.  So the big things are done.  Whew.  Now it’s down to the details and onto the big day!

We’re going to hit the 2 months to go mark tomorrow.

Posted in Wedding

Engagements Photos Take 2

May03
2008
Kristi Written by Kristi

Oh man these pics turned out so much better than the last ones. It was hard to pick but these are the ones we liked the best. If you’d like copies, please let me know. We can order some from our photographer.

And then Aaron asked us to kiss.

Bleech! Kissing?! Who said there would be kissing?

Posted in Romance, Wedding

Perspectives

Apr30
2008
Rob Written by Rob

It’s interesting to stop and reflect on what you’re willing to accept in life, what you’re not, and how life can radically change the balance between the two. We’ve both had to reevaluate our lives and everything in them over the last year; there are just some things you’re willing to put up with as a single person that you aren’t – can’t, won’t – with someone else in the equation and more to lose.

This morning I finally told a certain business prospect to go take a hike. For two weeks now we’d been going round and round on a possible copywriting project – their business website – while they niggled and henpecked and hemhawed and played out every bent, faded, word card from Negotiation Poker 101. Please: like I haven’t read those books, too. Don’t insult me.

After complaining about price (they wanted their project for half market value), delivery terms and timeline, it seemed that we’d come to an understanding and I offered to send them a contract. No need, they said, because they have their own.

That’s nice, I said. We’re not using it, but that’s nice.

And so then started a whole new round of quibbling and anal retentive paranoia. I have a clean contract; I’ve been doing this a long time, and you don’t survive long in this business without protecting yourself and at the same time being fair to your clients. Turned out, that wasn’t good enough for them. When we really got down to the bedrock of their issue, it came down to a clause in their “standard” contract – keep in mind, this is a startup, not IBM – that stated that the contractor (in this case, me) would indemnify them for any damages or costs that may arise from the work we do together.

Uh, no. That’s not going to happen, and here’s why: I’m a writer. I’m depending on the guidance and background information provided by the client to do my job; if there’s a problem, the worst I can contribute to it is a grammar slipup. If they provide me with plagiarized materials or anything like that, and I don’t know about it, and they get sued, I’m supposed to pay their legal bills? Give me a break, guys – when you stop huffing White Out and get serious, let me know.

Don’t get me wrong: I never would have signed that. But I probably would have spent at least another week arguing with them about it, instead of simply cutting them off and moving on. Too many risks. Too many warning signs. I can deal with making a bad client decision and taking the rap for it, but with Kristi involved, there’s suddenly a whole level of risk I’m not willing to play. Perhaps it’s just that “growing up” thing I’ve heard so darned much about over the years.

(On the other hand, we’ve recently picked up Grand Theft Auto 4. So what do I know?)

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